I saw these questions on Rachel's blog and kinda loved them and wanted to share them here for all of you to go through with your spouse:
- What things did you see in this person that made you want to marry him?
- What were your goals for your marriage when you were engaged?
- What things in your marriage make you sad?
- What things in your marriage make you happy?
- If you could press a button and change your marriage, how would it change?
- In what ways do you think God is honored in your marriage?
- How would you characterize your communication with your spouse?
- Describe how you and your spouse arrive at decisions.
- Describe how you as a couple resolve conflicts.
- How would you describe your spiritual life as a couple?
- Are there couples you look up to? What do you respect about their marriages?
- Why do you think you have struggled as a couple?
- What do you see as the strengths in your marriage?
- What do you see as the weaknesses in your marriage?
- What do you think you need to do as a couple to get from where you are to where you need to be?
- Describe the marriage of your dreams.
- What could your spouse do to greatly change you marriage?
- What problems in your marriage do you see as your responsibility?
- What do you think God is doing in your marriage right now?
- What do you think keeps you as a couple from solving your problems?
- Describe how your marriage has changed over the years.
- When you are hurt or angry with your spouse, what do you do?
- How do you communicate dissatisfaction with your spouse?
- Pick one area of your marriage where you think you have problems. Describe what is wrong and what each of you have done to solve it.
- In what ways have you attempted to communicate love and appreciation to your spouse?
- What are the biggest hot buttons in your marriage?
3 comments:
I love your Wedding Wednesday posts! These are some wonderful questions and many can be re-worded to be asked during the engagement period!
I hope you guys had a wonderful Christmas and have a very happy New Year!
My husband & I went over these today. Was very good for us to do--gave us a foundation for communication and even though we've only been married for 6 months this is healthy.
you should know that your blog encouraged me today. i saw the title and knew i had to read further.
i got married and became a stepmom just over a year ago. as i reflected on our first year together as a family, i realized that my relationship with my stepdaughter has blossomed and is flourishing...because i give it my time, attention and energy. i knew i needed to learn how to parent and approached it with vigor and gave it my all. it paid off.
i now realize that i need to do the same for my marriage. i need to learn to be a wife, too. that was my new year's/anniversary resolution. well...a week into this, our second year of marriage, we hit a rough patch. really rough. i'm still licking my wounds...gathering the energy and courage to try again. this blog and this post really helped me. i really, really needed to see it today.
and i'm sorry to hear that people have left unkind comments. i never understand how people will sit at their computer screens and type things they would never say in person. you are very brave to share your life with us and i like your blog. i'm glad i found it tonight!
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