Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Wedding Wednesday

I saw these questions on Rachel's blog and kinda loved them and wanted to share them here for all of you to go through with your spouse:

  1. What things did you see in this person that made you want to marry him?
  2. What were your goals for your marriage when you were engaged?
  3. What things in your marriage make you sad?
  4. What things in your marriage make you happy?
  5. If you could press a button and change your marriage, how would it change?
  6. In what ways do you think God is honored in your marriage?
  7. How would you characterize your communication with your spouse?
  8. Describe how you and your spouse arrive at decisions.
  9. Describe how you as a couple resolve conflicts.
  10. How would you describe your spiritual life as a couple?
  11. Are there couples you look up to? What do you respect about their marriages?
  12. Why do you think you have struggled as a couple?
  13. What do you see as the strengths in your marriage?
  14. What do you see as the weaknesses in your marriage?
  15. What do you think you need to do as a couple to get from where you are to where you need to be?
  16. Describe the marriage of your dreams.
  17. What could your spouse do to greatly change you marriage?
  18. What problems in your marriage do you see as your responsibility?
  19. What do you think God is doing in your marriage right now?
  20. What do you think keeps you as a couple from solving your problems?
  21. Describe how your marriage has changed over the years.
  22. When you are hurt or angry with your spouse, what do you do?
  23. How do you communicate dissatisfaction with your spouse?
  24. Pick one area of your marriage where you think you have problems. Describe what is wrong and what each of you have done to solve it.
  25. In what ways have you attempted to communicate love and appreciation to your spouse?
  26. What are the biggest hot buttons in your marriage?
Garth and I plan to work on these questions. Let me know if you decide to ask these questions. I would love to hear how it goes!


Renise said...

I love your Wedding Wednesday posts! These are some wonderful questions and many can be re-worded to be asked during the engagement period!
I hope you guys had a wonderful Christmas and have a very happy New Year!

Katy Nustad said...

My husband & I went over these today. Was very good for us to do--gave us a foundation for communication and even though we've only been married for 6 months this is healthy.

Anonymous said...

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