Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Wedding Wednesday.

The topic was about physical intimacy this past week. I'll be relatively brief on this subject since my family reads this blog, ha! I will tell you the one thing I did take away from the study was this is not a taboo subject. Our culture, religion, etc. make it seem so, but God created physical intimacy as a gift to married couples. It's sacred. It's intimate. It's powerful.

You may have heard it before, but the saying "men are like microwaves and women are like crock pots" is very true and very frustrating. Why did God make us so darn different from each other, right? It is really tough because women crave romance and men crave physical touch. We as women don't ever want to reject our men and hurt their feelings, but the crockpot was cold.

The speakers illustrated the difference between women and men so well. Men are like computers because they compartmentalize. When a man leaves work, he shuts that work window so to speak and opens his drive home window. When he gets home he shuts the drive home window and opens the relaxing window. Women, on the other hand, are more like spaghetti. Everything overlaps with everything. We can't shut down one window and open another. Everything is connected and we think about it all the time. This is distracing during physical intimacy because women can't turn their brains off and just focus on the moment.

All this to say, men and women are different. It's imperative to know we are all wired differently. Women crave romance and men crave respect. It's easy for women to love because we want to be loved so we know how to give it. Men crave respect so they give us respect. We just keep missing each other, ha! Men, it's important to find out what will woo your wife. Find out what makes her swoon. Personally, when Garth cleans the house without my asking it is the most romantic thing ever. Women, respect your husbands. Listen to him, acknowledge him, and encourage him.

If you take away anything from this post, I encourage you to realize God designed physical intimacy to be a glorious thing.

"May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer-- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love." Proverbs 5:18-19.

"The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5.

"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, 'Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.' So we say with confidence, 'The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?'" Hebrews 13:4-6.


Café Moka said...

Men are women are totally different, that's so true!
We don't have the same kind of brain!

MrsV said...

I have been very encouraged by "Wedding Wednesday". Recently the preacher who married my husband and I, has started a marriage blog with his wife. It is called Life With You and can be found at
In it they discuss a sermon series called the Peasant Princess. My husband and I watched it before we got married, and I found it to be uplifting. I would love to watch it again now that we are married.
I would encourage you to look into both of these things if you have time.

Maria said...

Amen and amen! Those are great analogies and something you don't think about until you're married. Great post!
There's a picture of a baby on Pinterest wearing a onesie that says, "All mommy wanted was a back rub." Ha!

Lauren said...

great post...Hubby & I have to remind ourselves of the crock-pot/ microwave difference on a regular basis! ha!

Christina Marie said...

I've read soooo many books that just keep pounding out this same message, so important. and just remembering that men need respect more than they need to be shown "love" really does make a huge difference! Thanks for sharing:)
would you like to swap buttons?

MrsV said...

Hey Lindsey,
I realized when I was sending my mom an email with a link to the same blog I gave you the wrong address. It is Sorry about that.

HRH said...

i loved this post. thanks for sharing!