Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Results.

Thank you so much, dear readers, for your sweet advice on yesterday's post. You all rock and I am so glad we are all bloggy friends!!
Garth and I discussed your ideas yesterday and we are going to invite the neighbors over, but not until the end of the summer. The main reason for this is simple - we want to "feel" them out a bit more. Our biggest fear is becoming friends with our neighbors and then they end up coming over ALL the time. Garth and I are social people, but we also like our space. We do not like people just showing up without calling. Is this just me? I was always taught it was respectful to call before coming over. It would be so easy for our neighbors to just start "dropping by" which terrifies me. I am an event planner by trade, thus I need time to plan before entertaining!
So, if all goes well and they still seem "normal" in the next month, we will have the party.

22 comments:

Shannon said...

Oh, you're def not alone on the whole "call beforehand" thing! I wish everyone called before they showed up at our door!

Erin said...

Sounds like a good plan :) Im in the same boat with you...I don't really care for people just showing up.

Lucy Marie said...

I agree - I hate when people show up without calling first. The nice thing about our basement apartment is that you have to come through the garage to get in, and it is usually locked so people can't just stop by :)

Also, these two posts reminded me of an episode in how i met your mother. I don't know if you've ever watched that show but the main characters have this same problem! They meet and invite their neighbors over and then they end up having to sneak out their windows to get outside without getting snagged by them! I hope that never happens to you!

Shoeaddict329 said...

Well, I have to say, I do love surprise visits from my friends, and I likewise enjoy dropping by...however, only with those whom I consider to be my FRIENDS!! So I don't blame you...or, what if you have them over now, and then they turn out to be crazy or weirdo's but now they're expecting you to be friends with them?? That's even scarier to me...it's a good idea to wait it out awhile...

KC said...

That's a great idea! You've definitely got to feel people out before inviting them over. I think you'll meet some great friends! (hehe... I'm a planner when it comes to events too! But it's not my job. :-)

Jen and Rob said...

Glad to hear you decided to do it! Isn't that just the scariest thing, when you hear the doorbell and neither one of you were expecting company?

Gwen said...

That sounds like a good plan!!! Sometimes if you become to friendly with neighbors they start to take advantage of you. I say that from experience of course. XOXO

...Mrs. Southern Bride... said...

Unless it's our immediate family, I prefer people to just call or e-mail. :)

Megan said...

Do you watch How I Met Your Mother? There is an episode aobut becoming freinds with your neighbors and it backfiring. It is hillarious!

Annie said...

oh fun! glad you decided to go through with it.
totally with you on preferring a call or a heads up before guests just show up! ha!

Mrs. Realife said...

NO! It's defintely NOT just you... Mr. R and I are the exact same way...

We live in the country, although on a pretty main road, and people feel as thought it's appropriate to just drive up our very long driveway any time and honk the horn... ugh :(

Your plan rocks.

~Mrs. Guru~ said...

Nope I agree people should call before they come over. It is the nice thing to do.

MissJody said...

Yes! Yes! Great choice!!!

I could not agree with you more :)

My hubby and I are very private. We have always have courtesy to others TO PLAN ,drop-bys!
We expect the same respect :)

Good choice!!!

MissJody said...

Oh my land...i read me last comment..I can not darn neR SPEk today...or er umm...type...
geez!

Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

Sounds like a good plan....I love your blog and will be back to read more.

Marissa said...

Good plan!

Aartee said...

lol yeah you don't want any crazies either!! it's good to feel them out first!

Happiness Is... said...

I totally understand your fear. If it makes you feel better, though, we have shared half a house with next door neighbors for the past 2 years (in NOLA a lot of houses are divided into 2 apartments, side by side, so it's a free standing house with a left apartment and a right apartment).

Anyway, the point is just that it would be SUPER easy to drop by our house (or for us to go to theirs), and it's never been an issue.

If they ever did knock on our door and we don't want to hang out, you can answer it and stand IN the door, which is basically a nice way of saying "you're not coming in."

But yes, I understand your concern totally! It is also rude to call people's house after 8, but I know I am old fashioned.

Jon and Steph said...

I am COMPLETELY with you on the fact that people should call before they stop by! There are people in our family that just stop by without calling, it does drive me insane!

a H.I.T. said...

Good plan.

Lil' Woman said...

I agree, I like for people to call before they just drop in! : )

Jules said...

I think that is a fantastic idea and I don't blame you. It is tough with neighbors because when they see that you're home, they can just pop over. My old neighbor at our house now (we have a townhouse) used to do it whenever I took the dogs out and held me hostage for a least and hour sometimes.

Hopefully you like them and have a nice time once you decide to invite them over!