Our pastor was doing a series on differences between men and women and I wanted to share one of the illustrations he used:
A woman is stuck in the mud and the man is trying to fix the situation by grabbing sticks to help pull her out, etc. The woman is crying out and the man is desperately trying to rescue her. Afterall, this is man's instinct - to rescue, to fix. Finally, the woman yells: "I just want you to jump in the mud with me!!!" Women want our men to crawl into that ugly mud pit and sympathize with us. Isn't it true?
Last night I came home from work very upset. I had a really bad day and all I wanted to do was vent to Garth. Garth, sweet Garth, immediatly tried to fix the problem I was having. He was rattling off all these ways he could help. Finally, I said...ok maybe yelled: "I just want you to jump in the mud with me!" I didn't want him to fix the problem, not today. I just wanted him to listen and tell me everything was going to be alright.
Garth switched gears and cuddled me close, stroked my hair and told me everything was going to be alright. And then, being the God-fearing man that he is, he prayed for me. I'm so thankful for that man of mine...who remembered that sermon and got in the mud with me!
- Lindsey
- I love God. My husband makes me laugh a lot. I could eat sushi everyday. I have been to Israel. I hate the rain in my shoes. I enjoy reading theology. I love Broadway musicals. I hate florescent lights. I like dressing up. I love weddings. I hate cake. I enjoy planning events. I adore Hawaii. I wish I could sing. I hope bell bottoms never go out of style. I am not a city girl. I love hanging out with my husband. I can kick your butt at Connect Four. I love bike riding. I should have been born in a state with an ocean. I'm following THE Rabbi. I like to clean. I love to laugh. I rather read than cook. I want to love God with my life.
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Great post! I shared this on my blog. Hope you don't mind! :)
It's bad how empathetic I am sometimes. When my husband is in a bad mood and being pissy I start to react to it without even knowing why he's in a mood and sometimes he doesn't even realize it.
So true! I love that analogy!
Love this post! Your hubby is super sweet. Blessings, SusanD
I love that analogy - it's so true! My FH and I have a system, before I start a "rant" I have to preface the conversation by saying whether this is a "listen" conversation, or a "fix it" conversation, and then he acts accordingly. It works great!
What a sweet post! And so true!! It's hard when you are having a bad day and all men want to do is fix it and make it go away. It's their way of helping, I guess, but it doesn't work for us :) I love this analogy! And what a sweet husband to sit and pray with you afterwards.
what a precious story!! what a great husband!! :)
Wow...so true! I'm going to tell my husband about that one!
You guys truly fit :)
Hope your week gets better!
Definitely true about men and women! Garth sounds like a sweetheart! Does he have a clone that happens to live in California? ;-)
I love this post! What a wonderful analogy! I hope you have a better day today!
So true! I might have to share this on my blog... :)
What a great analogy and sweet story!
Wow...how sweet :) I love it when it clicks like that...for all of us!
Everyone else has said it, but I'll say it again- so true! :) Sorry about the bad day, girl!
So very true!! I hope you day is going better!!
Such a great post - I will have to share this with Dimples. Thank you!
How true. What a great analogy. I'm going to share with Husby.
Hope things are better with work now :)
so true.. and what a great friendship you two have!
that's awesome. exactly what we're going through in our marriage too! i better explain that to ryan before i just say "jump in the mud with me!" :)
how sweet. I love this post.. so very true! You have a great husband!
That is very sweet that Garth prays for you like that!
What a great illustration and what a sweet hubby!
I love that story..thanks for sharing it! I always want someone in the mud with me :)
Love that story. My hubby knows when to pray for me as well and will do it right then and there out loud. It brings a sense of calm.
Okay - I'm DEFINITELY telling my husband this story. It's SO true - just get dirty already... quit trying to fix things and jsut get in the mud with me!
Your pastor FINALLY put words to the insanity of womanhood. Go Pastor-guy!! Rock on!
ha ha ha
That's a perfect analogy. I have to tell the same thing to Ben sometimes--I don't want him to fix it, I just want to whine!
What a sweet post Lindsey!!
What a good illustration! I think my husband has a hard time jumping in the mud because he thinks that I will be happier if I let him pull me out. We are still working on that area :)
Great post and SO true! I'm always telling my husband all he has to say is, "I'm sorry, that sucks!" when I'm unhappy about something.
can you fly to Oklahoma and have a long talk with my husband and explain this to him?
This is what I've been trying to tell him about dealing with my insomnia I don't want him to give me ways to fix it that's what doctors are for I just want to be held at 3:00AM when I wake him up sobbing because no matter what I do I can't sleep.
ahhh good hubby, that's so sweet, and so awesome that he prayed for you too, i love that :)
Great post! Don't you just love when he prays for you or with you? I fall in love with my hubby all over again every time he does that!
I just have to tell you...your relationship is such an inspiration to me!
I love when my hubby says he prays for me. Him? Praying for me? And he's the one in Iraq.
It just boggles my mind daily. I sooo understand what you're talkin' about.
So sweet :) You and your hubby are adorable.
Great post. Kudos to Garth for hearing you. It's nice when men can conform, but always remember to accept that he is a man and understand how they do things differently. Make sure to cut him some slack next time he tries to "fix" something - he did good - and remember this special moment.
Winks & Smiles,
Wifey
Excellent analogy (that is an analogy right? : )
I get this all the time from flyboy, especially when he's away and feels bad b/c he's not here to fix it. I always tell him, I dont want you to fix it, just listen, thats more then enough.
Hope you have a better end of the week!
You guys are precious!!
Nice guy you've got there~ you can tell how much he loves you! I really like that analogy as well, thank you for sharing.
great post! i cant wait until the day i can write a post saying how my husband prays for me. all in Gods time! :)
So sweet! You two have such a strong relationship and I admire that. It's funny, because my girlfriends and I always talk about how guys are "fixers". That is a great analogy!
What a precious story! I love that your pastor shared this with you guys! It's so true, men love fixing things/problems. I want Jon to jump in the mud with me sometimes too ;) Your husband is so sweet for listening to you, taking care of you and praying for you!
This is SO true! What a sweetheart Garth is. My husband is the same :)
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This is wonderful. I love the illustration your pastor used- it's very true! Thanks for being an inspirational couple in terms of faith, it's great to read about.
So, so true! I am now going to share with the hubs!
ahhh ur soo lucky! how sweet! I love it... I know the feeling.. when you really dont want advice on the subject you just want a snuggle and to know weverything will be ok.. thanks for sharing my friend!
Aaawww, this so made me cry!!
Aaawww...
Does your pastor have notes for this sermon...I might need them to share with Mr. Wonderful.
Great analogy!
That's really wonderful. Thank you for sharing. Reminded me of my own gratitude in my faithful man.
i've read your blog for awhile, and now im a groupie..!!=) great post and great hubby!
Excellent post! I hear ya---sometimes they just need to listen!
I hope you're having a better day today & that you have a fun and relaxing weekend!
I totally had to say that to my husband last night. I was super stressed and he kept trying to fix it and I finally just yelled for him to get in the mud with me! He doesn't read your blog so he had no idea what the heck I was talking about, but I explained it to him and he gave me a great big hug. Thanks for the story!
3 things.
1. That was a great post.
2. You have the sweetest husband.
3. This totally made me tear up.
I hope things are better for ya!
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